Monday, March 8, 2010


So, this issue has been weighing on my mind for sometime. I think, because it's one of those things that I have no control over, I let it bother me even more. I think it also makes me feel like my mother and older than I want to be, which also bothers me a bit. I really try to be open minded when the issue doesn't involve life or death, but for some reason I just can't get past this one. So I will lay it all out there and you can tell me what you think. Here goes:

My youngest daughter loves tatoos. She has 4 of them. She's 21. This bothers me. When I was growing up the only people who had tatoos where gang members, prison inmates and Hells Angels. When I was her age, girls with tatoos where considered cheap, fast or both. I realize that tatoos have become much more mainstream but for the life of me I just can't get used to it. The fact that I have a hard time accepting it also makes me feel old. The whole thing is a conundrum.

I try to take solace in the fact that her tatoos all have some meaning to them. At least they were not spur of the moment and seem to be well tought out. The Holy Spirit with a bible verse, Faith, Family and the most recent a pink breast cancer ribbon in honor of my mother. She is already planning her next one which is a fairly big one. The Faith and Family tatoos bother me the most only because they are on the insides of her wrists which i think is really hard to cover up. I also wonder how she is going to feel about them when she's my age, which is really none of my business, so why do I care? She has promised me she will not tatoo her face....I'm glad for that. Another reason it bothers me is because I think she is such a beautiful girl and to me the tatoos take away from that. I really feel like the most judgemental and prejudice person writing that. But it's how I feel so I might as well own it.

So there you have it. I'm officially the fuddy duddy mother of a young adult. Something I never intended on being and never wanted to be. I always promised myself I would not become my mother. (Mind you, I love my mother very much and she was a special person, but just not always the most open minded.) How does this happen? Is it just inevitable? Are we destine to become our mothers? I wonder......


  1. Well, if you're the fuddy duddy old mom, then I must be the fuddy duddy old aunt. I don't like tattoos. Period. I make my designs in fabric- if I don't like them later, I can fold them up and put them in the closet.
    Welcome back. I clicked on your link by mistake and got a pleasant surprise. Glad you're feeling better. Didn't know you were sick. Guess we should talk more often?

  2. I'm not a tattoo fan either. It does sound like your daughter makes thoughtful choices for her "body art." It seems like more people are getting tattoos everyday. Some days when I'm trying to settle my crazy crowd, I can hear my mom's voice in every one of my reprimands.

  3. My kids are older too, and although they haven't tatooed themselves (YET), my daughter's boyfriend (who is really a handsome guy) has that obsession for tatoos. For some reason, I am uncomfortable with them too. I think it is because we've seen more of life and we know that if you let will pass for sure. But these kids at this point grab hold of an idea and let their dreams run wild! I guess the consequences are theirs to live with...we're only along for a ride! Thanks for the great post. I see you're a baseball fan...who's your team?

  4. Hey Sis!!! As you know, I was the first one in our immediate family to get a tatoo. My only one, so far. I don't have a problem with them except, I agree they should be where they can be hidden. I don't like the ones my daughter has on her wrists and forearms either. I don't know if it's any comfort, but our children will also have to deal with things they don't like, that thier children do. This has happened for generations before us and will continue for generations after us. In a way it is parents payback, in a wierd sort of way. She is definitly your wild child and I love her for being herself but I also understand her and you. If that makes any sense.Love you!!!